Useful vs. Useless Guilt
Like ice cream, guilt comes in all flavors. Some we like and some we don’t. Knowing the difference between guilt that should be heeded and guilt you should dismiss will help you stay on top of your game as you go through life.
GUILT TO LET GO
Guilt Stemming from the Disagreement of Others
If you decide to do something for yourself with no intent to harm anyone, and someone gets upset with you for doing what you want instead of doing what he or she wants, the problem is theirs not yours. Be empathetic if the situation calls for it, but not guilty. When you intend to harm someone, then you are responsible for the results of that. But when you seek only to take care of yourself with no intent to harm anyone, you are not responsible for how others react.
Guilt from Lying to Yourself
Following your own path towards your goals with no intent to harm anyone is not wrong. Telling yourself there is a problem with that is. The ego wants to be liked and will try to convince you that it is your responsibility to have others agree with you at all times. This is a lie. Others will feel as they will. We can’t control this so there is no reason to feel guilty over it.
Guilt from Blaming Yourself for Things that are Out of Your Control
As the common phrase goes, stuff happens. Even if one small part of a situation may have been within your control, taking in the whole picture, chances are your role was only one small part of a much larger picture. Keep things in perspective. Situations, whatever they may be, are usually the result of many choices, made by many people. Keep this in mind when analyzing your feelings.
GUILT TO PAY ATTENTION TO
Feelings Stemming from Actions that are in Contrast to Beliefs
When you have actually done something you know you shouldn’t, guilt usually follows. This is good. It shows you have a conscience. Give heed to these legitimate feelings. Make reparations however possible. Taking responsibility for our choices and being accountable for our actions is a hallmark of people who are emotionally healthy and personally happy.